Happy Winter Solstice!
What the Darkest Day of the Year Is Asking of You
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“Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.”
- Anne Lamott
Hello darlings,
Happy Sunday.
And happy Winter Solstice! 🌙
Today is the longest night of the year. And unlike most days, it doesn’t ask anything of you.
There’s nothing to decide.
Nothing to plan.
Nothing to improve.
The solstice is a reminder that some moments are meant to be witnessed, not optimized.
Can you let today be enough—exactly as it is?
No journaling required.
Just notice.
Where I’m at in my cycle
Current phase: Follicular (day 11)
My body is stirring with returning energy, ideas beginning to surface, the natural momentum of this phase starting to build. And yet, today—the solstice—asks me to pause anyway.
Not because I don’t have energy. But because the collective season matters too.
Even when my personal cycle is moving toward light, I can still honor the longest night. I can still choose stillness over momentum, presence over productivity.
This week’s cyclical practice: Letting ideas stir without rushing them into action. Holding space for what’s emerging without forcing it into form.
What the Solstice actually is
The Winter Solstice isn’t a reset or a portal. It’s not a moment to set intentions or manifest anything new.
It’s a pause point, a quiet threshold where nothing visibly changes, and yet something subtly shifts beneath the surface.
Ancient cultures understood this. They didn’t treat the solstice as a beginning; they honored it as a holding. The Romans feasted during Saturnalia, the Celts celebrated Yule’s darkness before the light, Indigenous peoples held ceremonies trusting the sun would return.
These weren’t productivity rituals. They were acts of trust; trust that the darkness was necessary, that rest was sacred, that stillness held its own power.
Modern culture stripped this away, turning the darkest season into the busiest one. We filled the longest night with lights, obligations, and pressure to perform. We forgot how to simply be held by the dark.
But nature remembers. And your body remembers too.
❄️ Why stillness matters
We’ve been conditioned to believe that when nothing is happening, something must be wrong. That stillness equals stagnation, and rest equals falling behind.
But in nature, this is the moment of deepest restoration. The earth isn’t preparing or planning or becoming anything. It’s simply resting in winter, being held by the dark soil, trusting what will emerge when the time is right.
The solstice invites the same of you, not to extract meaning or name the lesson or turn inward so you can produce something later. Just to be here. Just to rest. Just to trust.
Darkness is not the absence of light. Darkness is the womb where transformation gestates, where seeds rest before they sprout, where your next season is quietly forming.
You don’t need to do anything with it. You just need to let it hold you.
Where this meets your cycle
No matter where you are in your cycle right now—menstrual, follicular, ovulatory, or luteal—today exists outside of personal timelines.
If you’re in your menstrual phase, this is your personal winter solstice. Let yourself rest even deeper. You’re already in the darkness; let it be enough.
If you’re in your follicular or ovulatory phase (like me), you might have energy and ideas stirring. The solstice doesn’t ask you to suppress that. It just asks you not to act on it yet. Let it simmer. Let it gestate.
If you’re in your luteal phase, you’re already moving toward your own darkness. The solstice is simply affirming what your body already knows: it’s time to slow down.
This isn’t about syncing perfectly or doing it “right.” It’s about softening into whatever phase you’re in and honoring the collective season we’re all held by.
If you want to mark this day, not because you should, but because it feels true, here’s a simple practice:
1. Light a candle at sunset
Watch the flame. Notice the darkness around it.
2. Sit quietly for a few minutes
Feel what it’s like to do nothing with intention.
3. Blow out the candle before bed
That’s it.
No journaling required. No reflection questions. No insight to capture or lesson to integrate. Just presence. Just witnessing. Just being held by the longest night.
🌘 What I’m honoring this solstice
Today, I’m not releasing anything or setting any intentions. I’m not trying to extract meaning or turn this into a growth moment.
I’m simply honoring:
The parts of me that are tired
The questions that don’t need answers yet
The spaces in my life that are still undefined
The darkness that’s holding me
And honestly? That feels like enough.
💬 If your need support in trusting the darkness
If you’re realizing you’ve been fighting your need for stillness, filling every quiet moment with productivity, turning every pause into a lesson, resisting rest because it feels unproductive, this is what we work on in 1:1 coaching.
Not to add more practices or extract more meaning, but to help you trust that doing nothing is doing something. That stillness has its own power. That your darkness is not the problem, it’s the womb.
There’s still a few spots for 90-minute Breakthrough Sessions in January 2026.
Reading: The Heated Rivalry series. I’m obsessed!
Reflecting on: How to be more still without feeling pressure
Practicing: Trusting the process
🌙 May you honor your darkness as deeply as you celebrate your light.
As always, hit reply and let me know what’s landing.
Wishing you stillness, trust, and the quiet power of the longest night,
